McLain Family
Sunday, November 29, 2009
A Season of Thanksgiving.
Sunday, March 8, 2009
March 2009
So what’s going on? Here’s the short version:
• Corrie is still in Germany (sigh), is learning lots (yay), and is dating a young German man named Daniel (mixed emotions here, but I think “yay!”).
• Josiah is still in college, of course.
• TJ is still at home. She divides her time between her craftwork (very cool), volunteering at the Library (cool), looking for work (yay) and being bored (yay). We really enjoy living with her.
• Sue is still working ¾ time for the Department of Revenue (yay). She has applied for a full-time and permanent position, and then they hit the latest hiring freeze.
• I (David) am still working at CCI (yay), where we’re working extra hard because of our lovely economy; I’m teaching more (love it) at Revival Town.
• We have a wonderful new cat named Mia who rules us with grace and humor.
We’ve been fighting a flu bug this winter, far more than any other year; all of us have missed work with it, Sue & I more than the kids. We really aren’t pleased with this! Sue, TJ & I are working our way out of the most recent round.
We inherited a car from Sue’s brother-in-law a year and a half ago; we think we might be able to actually take possession of it in the next few months. Talk about a lesson in patience.
Speaking of patience, we’re finding ourselves in a season of Proverbs 3:5&6 (outlined here), focusing on the phrase, “Do not lean on your own understanding.” I’m being confronted with how much I have trusted my experience and knowledge of how God does stuff (eg “my own understanding”), and how different that is from actually trusting Him. Quite the adventure.
Along those lines, Sue & I are finding ourselves more challenged in our “moving forward” this year. I’m hoping that Sue’s leading of a “worship and testimony” night at church recently (which was wonderful!) will prove to be the start of a new trend; she has a real gift in leading worship. I mentioned I’m teaching more, and that will no doubt continue while our church’s team leader is on sabbatical.
In addition, I’m planning a “home group training workshop” for later this spring. It will be for leaders, proto-leaders, hopeful leaders, and non-leaders, and I’m looking forward to it with some trembling. Talk about “leaning not on my own understanding!
Sue’s mom is still going strong. She’s still 93, she’s still living at home, mostly on her own (I helped her interview a new once-a-week caregiver this weekend.), and she still has strong opinions. Her world is getting smaller, but I expect her to hit 100 years old, which is another “yay!”
Blessings y’all!
Saturday, January 19, 2008
January 19th: The Pressure is Increased
Again, thanks for your prayers anew. Today, I’d like to ask for your prayers for my mother-in-law,
We have stopped that. Last night, we visited with
She quickly grasped that now she needs to come up with a solution (instead of depending on her daughter to come up with a solution, which she would then oppose), and also grasped that she didn’t have the resources to pay her caregivers.
The good news is that she’s getting stronger: she can get out of her bed, she can get into her wheelchair, and get around. There is food (rather a lot of food) in her refrigerator which she can reach.
The bad news is that her caregivers – knowing that they haven’t been paid for a while and now learning that they wouldn’t be paid for a longer while – have stopped working for her, and have left for jobs that include paychecks.
We love Grandma B – we really do! – but we must let her make her own decisions, and yet we must also help her without rescuing her. And it would be best if we survived in the process.
In the midst of all this, we have some other fun and exciting things going on.
God warned us that a season like this was coming. The prophetic word said, “I’m going to begin the repotting, re-rooting, re-pruning process so that you can grow into what I need for you to be in order to accomplish my purpose and destiny,” and “You might tell some people around you, “If we get ugly, love us for a while.” Because when God does a process like that, you get ugly for a little while.” I guess we’re getting ugly for a while. Thanks for loving us!
So if you’d pray for
You’re terrific! Thanks!
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
Happy New Year!
Happy New Year! I’m counting on 2008 being an interesting year!
Thanks for your prayers again! It looks like our need for them is ramping up again, particularly in relationship with
“Grandma B” is unable to live on her own: she can’t get out of bed, use the restroom, or make her own meals by herself. She’s chosen thus far to live at home with caretakers. It’s expensive, really expensive, but good care at a high quality home would be in the same ballpark. She’s exhausted all of her money paying the caretakers; she’s a little stronger, physically, which makes her think she’ll be “all better” real shortly. It appears that she may have been having a series of small strokes which makes progress difficult, as does being 92 years old!
The only choices before her now are to sell her house and move into a nursing home, or to get a reverse mortgage, use the proceeds to pay her in-home care, and continue to live at home. (Obviously, there are limits on how long those funds will last; that’s a concern, but for another day.)
She steadfastly refuses to move to a home, which is fine, except she has convinced herself that she can not or should not consider a reverse mortgage either. That leaves her the option of living on her own, and there are two problems with that: 1) she can’t live on her own. 2) we’ve already been informed by elder-care advocates that if she does attempt to live on her own, they are legally required to report her as “at risk” and “unsafe”, and at that point, the state steps in, and she loses all say in the matter: she will be moved to a nursing home (we are told) against her will.
Since we don’t want her in a home against her will, we’re moving forward with the reverse mortgage; we should have done it a month ago, when she was in favor of it. Now she is not; she’s angry, hurt, confused. Did I say “angry”? Boy howdy. She’s making completely baseless accusations against everyone, she has disowned
So
This is going to sound funny: we’re also working on finding our place in the church in this community. We stopped attending our church (GloryHouse: cool place) at what we believe was God’s instruction. Hindsight would support that conclusion; we could not have coped with our past several months had we still carried those responsibilities, and we’re too strong-willed to lay it down when times are tough.
We feel that God has not called us out of one Sunday morning gathering in order to plug into another, so we’re looking at non-standard models. We’ll explore house church, home groups, and other Revolutionary options. We’ll definitely stay in relationship with church – with several of them in fact – but probably not become members of any. In fact, it looks like I’ll be teaching at a couple of congregations in the next several weeks.
Oddly perhaps, in the midst of all of this, we’re observing that our marriage is growing stronger; our hands-on relationship with God is also growing stronger. We see this as (in
Please pray for Grandma B (“
Thanks again for your prayers!
Tuesday, December 25, 2007
Merry Christmas All!
We’re still in transition, of course. The number of crises is down:
May your 2008 be more than you have hoped for, and may your challenges with 2007 be gone, except for the lessons and foundations they’ve left for your future! Thanks for your prayers!
Sunday, December 2, 2007
Snows in December
We're kind of wrapping up the details of Charlie's estate. There are some terribly lagging details: the title of the car is more difficult than we expected; please pray for an expedited process. We still have decisions to make about some of Charlie's "stuff" too.
Sue's mom is more a focus of our attentions now. She's still at home, still has 24-hour in-home care, and it's still expensive. Sue is finding means to pay for it; her mom has no idea how hard her daughter is working on her behalf! Sue is wonderful! She's wrestling with reverse mortgage details, government agency obstacles, bank bureaucracies, and still maintaining a family, a job and a life! She's so cool!
We've nearly finished cleaning up from the fallen tree; there remain but a few details. The most daunting will be to finish raking up all the leaves (under the snow, before they kill the grass), but those aren't huge issues. I've submitted the claim to the insurance company, and now we're praying for a quick and easy resolution.
Corrie is wrestling with finding the will of God (and the provision of God) in Germany. Boy, that's familiar! Josiah is wrestling with the changes from "adolescence" to "adulthood." That's a rough transition for anyone! TJ is working hard to finish high school; she's been asked to apply for a job in her idea of heaven: the local library, so we're praying for favor there!
Thanks for your prayers. You rock!
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Home Again
We're back in Olympia. We have some recommendations to make:
· If you need to go to Los Angeles, fly, don’t drive. It’s a honkin’ long drive! Two days at 9 or 10 hours a day.
· If you have to drive, drive something comfortable. You’ll be sitting for a long time.
· And drive with someone you love: you’ll be spending a long time with them.
· If you have to tow something, use a truck with a diesel engine if you can. We’ve been so impressed with this truck (my dad’s) on this trip.
· Time your drive to miss the Portland rush hour. Dang! They know how to have traffic jams!
· Redding is a great place to stop as a halfway point. It’s almost exactly halfway between Olympia and LA, and there’s a wonderful church there.
· There’s a coffee shop in the church’s lobby that makes great coffee. They have this five-shot thing called
· It’s wonderful to travel with the grace of God. His presence is really cool, and all kinds of problems almost happen instead of actually happen.
So we’re home. We have missed our kids, and we’ve already had several sock fights. My son was remarkably eager to install the larger TV into the living room with the video games and the DVD player. My daughter the craftsperson is excited about the tools and supplies we brought home – and almost went into apoplexy over the gold leaf!
We have a lot of work to do with the things from the estate. We have even more to do to help
She’s also recovering from another infection, a doozie that’s resistant to all oral antibiotics, so she’s going to the hospital every day for a week to get her antibiotics intravenously.
We’re also praying for more people to help with the care-giving so
It seems that FeedBurner isn’t sending out my updates recently, and hasn’t been for a little while. You might visit the website for the last few posts. I’ll send these out manually until I have a chance to figure that beastie out.
You’re a wonderful blessing!